You should trust a man who said he was on the pill
Scientists think that they’re one step closer to developing the male contraceptive pill. But would you trust your partner to take it? Here's why you should.
A new report claims that we’re a step closer to the contraceptive holy grail – the male pill. Knowing that this news would divide opinions, I forwarded the link to my friends.
“Why would you possibly trust me to take a pill,” my partner said. “I don’t even remember to eat breakfast most mornings. I don’t even know if I have socks on.”
“I’ve seen what happens when I ask Dave to take the bins out,” my friend said. “He’d leave it to the last minute and then forget.”
“I wouldn’t trust a man to take a pill – they’d just forget and you’d end up pregnant,” chimed in another.
I think it’s about time we stop infantilising men.
However, I disagree. I think it’s about time we stop infantilising men, and trust that they’d be able to share the responsibility of contraception.
If you’re mature enough to discuss oral contraceptives (and have both undergone the barrage of tests to ensure you’re harbouring no nasties) then he’s going to be mature enough to pop a tiny pill once a day.
Another friend of mine argued that you’d never be ‘100% sure’ that a man wasn’t lying about being on the pill to try and trap you in to a pregnancy.
While I don’t doubt there’s a plethora of broody late thirty-something males who would love to foist their progeny onto me, isn’t this a risk men have had to take for decades? And if he was that keen to try and trick you into motherhood, A) he’s an oddball – why are you with him? B) He could poke holes in your condoms, swap your lube for rubber-destroying baby oil, or make you look at pictures of adorable babies, puppies and kittens until your ovaries threaten to explode.
Some women have said that the male pill is threatening their freedom of choice: we’re the ones who are the babymakers, WE should be able to control our fertility.
Women could never again be accused of being ‘sperm stealers’.
But why shouldn’t men be able to do the same? Wealthy individuals would be able to safeguard their fortunes and their loins from sly divas looking for an 18-year meal ticket. And women could never again be accused of being ‘sperm stealers’ if men were giving the option of not letting their swimmers out of the box.
The male pill actually gives women more choice, not less. Maybe if men were more involved in the baby-making decision process we wouldn’t have so many feckless fathers, or episodes of the Jeremy Kyle show.
Bottom line: it takes two to tango. Why shouldn’t men shoulder some of the contraceptive burden?
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Periwinkle Jones has written for big name brands such as Cosmopolitan, Men's Health and Company both sides of the screen. Picked by Huffington Post as one of Twitter's funniest women she can most often be found there under the moniker @peachesanscream.
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