DR PAM ANSWERS READERS' PROBLEMS
Are mums returning to work too quickly?Young women are finding themselves torn between having a great career and starting a family. So what happens when you have both? Should new mums be rushing back to work like Rachida Dati to keep their careers? Dr Pam looks at the difficult predicament.
Confused about my new lifeDear Pam...I can't remember the last time that I was genuinely happy for no particular reason. I have little to no sex drive, I mope around and am usually snappy and my moods are unpredictable. I feel useless and inside I blame my partner for everything. Why do I feel this way?
Fallen for a guy at workDear Dr Pam...I've fallen for a guy at work and we get on really well. I don't know if it's love or not! But I know it feels really good but bad at the same time because I don't want to hurt my boyfriend. What should I do?
Feeling lonely and depressedDear Dr Pam... I've got a muscle weakness which means that I get tired quickly. It also means that in school I use a wheelchair to get from class to class, even though I can walk perfectly fine and do so in lessons. I often get the feeling that people can't see past the chair to who I am. Why do I feel so lonely and depressed?
Sizzling tips to spice up your sex life!Are you looking to spice things up in the bedroom? Our sex and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr has just written a brand new book on how to do just that. Here she lets us in on some secret sexy tips.
Trouble with my second familyDear Dr Pam... my father recently got in touch with me after many years and I discovered that I have another brother and sister. I am trying my best to build a good relationship with them all, but they mainly speak Punjabi while I mainly speak English and I'm finding it really hard.
I've fallen for a younger manDear Dr Pam... I recently had counselling to help me deal with lots of issues from childhood and it has done wonders for me. I've started working in a bar and have recently developed feelings for a younger man. But I'm terrified of being seen as the older woman, please help.
Confused over my ex and boyfriendDear Dr Pam... I had a fling that lasted just a week before I got with my current boyfriend but I feel like my ex still has a hold over me. I often find myself thinking of him and wonder if I'm not properly committed to my current relationship because of this.
Scared of becoming my dadDear Dr Pam... I've never had a long relationship with anyone because I'm scared of turning into my father, who was horrid to me and mother while I was growing up. I now feel that I'm ready for a serious relationship, but how can I be sure that I won't turn out like him?
I find it hard to meet peopleDear Dr Pam... I find myself getting really anxious when it comes to social gatherings but when I actually go along I find that they are not so bad. I just think I worry too much about what people think of me and that I'm not quite good enough.
Is he just a cross-dresser?Dear Dr Pam... when I married my husband I knew he was a cross-dresser, but lately he is spending more and more of his time dressed as his alter-ego. I'm not sure if he actually wants to become a woman. Please help.
My mother's controlling my lifeDear Dr Pam... I've had cancer for the past 15 years of my life. Ever since I was a little girl I've helped my mum around the house, but now it feels like she is running my life. I don't seem to have any freedom or independence. Please help.
Is my wife having a mid-life crisis?Dear Dr Pam... my wife and I have been married for 26 years and have three grown-up children. But now she wants to leave all of us behind and live in Barbados with a man ten years her junior. I don't know what to do.
Why it's time for the alpha male to make a comebackJust how manly a man do you want? Our sex and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr asks: is it time to bring back the alpha male?
My partner's daughter is so demanding!Dear Dr Pam... my partner has four grown-up children and I have a young daughter. We both live together but the problem is one of his daughters is utterly possessive of him - calling him first thing in the morning and last thing at night. It's getting in the way of our relationship. Please help.
My husband is never aroundDear Dr Pam... I have been married to my husband for two years but he constantly spends all of his time around at his ex's and I have found text messages between them telling each other they love one another. Please help.
I can't stop thinking about my office flingDear Dr Pam... I'm 30 and married to the man who I've been with since the age of 18. Everything was fine until six months ago when I started falling for a guy at work. He's told me it's only physical but I just can't stop thinking about him. Please help.
My partner won't meet my friendsDear Dr Pam... I am in a relationship which I hope will last for the rest of my days! We are both 50 and both have children. But the problem is my partner won't meet any of my friends - and I haven't met his family yet. I'd like us to move forward but don't know how to. Please help.
My girlfriend is emotionally abusiveDear Dr Pam... I have been with my girlfriend for 13 years but she is incredibly emotionally abusive. I can't seem to do anything right around the house or in the bedroom and I wonder if at 39 I should stay, or leave. Please help.
My husband has had an affairDear Dr Pam... my husband of 31 years has revealed he had a three-year affair with the wife of one of our friends. This has come as a complete bombshell and I can't seem to cope with things at the moment. Please help.
Embarrassed in the bedroomDear Dr Pam... my boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship and get on like the best of friends. The problem is, I often feel embarrassed in the bedroom, even though he tells me he thinks I'm gorgeous/sexy. Please help!
I feel let down by everybodyDear Dr Pam... I am someone with a huge lack of confidence and have suffered rejection from my parents, my grandmother and now my boyfriend. He has started to turn violent towards me and I don't know what to do. Please help.
The custody battleAs Madonna and Guy Ritchie are heading for the divorce courts, our relationships expert and agony aunt Dr Pam Spurr tackles the tough topic of how best to handle a marriage break-up and protect the children if it happens.
My boyfriend has left me because of his motherDear Dr Pam...Out of respect for his mother he has said we cannot be together and I know this decision was very hard for him. Even though religion was going to be an issue for us, I don't think he was ready for the response that his mom gave, which was basically that she would disown him if he were to bring any other girl apart from their religion back home... What should I do?
Sienna's heartbreak and why mismatched couples should beware!As Sienna Miller and Rhys Ifans decide whether to split for good or make a go of things, our Sex and Relationships Expert Dr Pam Spurr looks at why mismatched relationships can sometimes be doomed from the beginning.
You CAN get out of a violent and abusive relationshipOur relationship expert and agony aunt Dr Pam has recently received several problems from readers who are being emotionally or physically abused by their partners. Here she talks us through the signs, offers advice on what to do - and reveals how to get out.
Trying to be a superwoman and feeling like a super-failureOur relationship expert and agony aunt, Dr Pam Spurr, receives many problems from women who feel like they're trying to do it all and failing. And us mere mortals are not the only ones: it's a problem that's also hitting successful celebrities. Here, she tells it like it is.
I treat my wonderful boyfriend badlyDear Dr Pam... In my last relationship, I found out that my partner had been cheating on me all along with another girl - and his friends knew the whole time. I am now with a perfect boyfriend who is really good to me, but I keep trying to push him away. Please help.
My husband has panic attacks and becomes verbally abusiveDear Dr Pam... my partner and his family have always had issues dealing with stress but now he gets chest pains and says it feels like he's having a heart attack. He's also verbally abusive and I've started dreading coming home from work some days. What can I do to help?
My husband has destroyed my self-esteemI'm a wife and mother of four boys but I feel so sad and lonely I just can't believe this is as good as it gets. My husband is so abusive when we have arguments, it has completely destroyed my self-esteem. Please help.
Advertising features
Advertising features
Search to find your ideal family day out with our fun activity planner and discover great tips on how to occupy the kids.
Advertising features
Get a customised skin care routine with the Clinique interactive tool. Great looking skin is just a few answers away.
Advertising features
Discover Nestlé's guide to staying hydrated with fun facts about water, useful tips, a quiz and a competition to win a Nintendo DS.
Advertising features
Keep your spectacles stylish with Glasses Direct. Win a new pair of prescription glasses every year for life in this great competition.
Question of the week
- How is the credit crunch affecting your fashion & beauty sprees?
- I'm saving now rather than spending
27% - I'm budget buying rather than splashing out
42% - It hasn't affected my shopping at all
31%
- I'm saving now rather than spending
Get involved

Become a fan of MSN Life & Style on facebook, get instant updates by following us on twitter and try out the mobile phone version of this site.






