http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/datingadvice/Dating, relationship guides from MSN, for marriage, homelife and personal help for couples and singles.© MicrosoftEnglishhttp://stc.msn.com/br/intl/life/img/1/msn_pos_uk.gifhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/datingadvice/50Sex and Relationshipshttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6676305http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6676305You always knew fame and fortune weren't the only things in abundance. A new study breaks it down by the numbers.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=10431220http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=10431220Are you looking to spice things up in the bedroom? Our sex and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr has just written a brand new book on how to do just that. Here she lets us in on some secret sexy tips.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9826327http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9826327This week it has been announced that men will soon be able to buy authentic Viagra pills from an online pharmacy rather than paying a visit to their doctor.  We investigate how the new system will work.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9793740http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9793740The contraceptive pill for women has been around since the 1960s and has revolutionised the way that women manage their fertility.  Experts say that the pill for men could be on the market within the next seven years, but how does it work and who would be willing to take it?Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9094875http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9094875Sexual desire and food have been associated with each other for centuries. We went in search of foods thought to be strong aphrodisiacs. Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9072739http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9072739It is the superfood of the moment, and supermarkets and health shops alike are rushing to fill their shelves with packets of goji berries.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8936539http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8936539If you're a recent divorcee,  you may find the urge to date again over-rides everything, even your children's embarrassment at mum's flirty behaviour. Marina Gask points out the pitfalls.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8070957http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8070957If you're a megabucks millionaire who has the cash to splash (if only) then we've got some of the world's finest most exclusive wedding destinations for you and your spouse-to-be to party and honeymoon in for your big day.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5745779http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5745779If this doesn't get you reaching for your trainers then nothing will: recent research has found that fit people are having much better sex than their less active counterparts.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579687http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579687Our agony aunt Dr Pam Spurr has written a brand-new sex guide: Sensational Sex - The Revolutionary Guide to Sexual Pleasure And Fulfilment, published by Robson Books, priced £7.99. To buy your copy for the special price of £6.99 plus Free UK P&P, simply call 0870 787 1613 and quote ref. CH678. Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579686http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579686MySpace phenomenon Tila Tequila recently announced she had over one million friends on the networking website, but just 8% of our social circle are 'real' friends, according to new research. The experts reveal what makes a good friend and why we have mates we love to hate.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579685http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579685Successful seduction of the opposite sex has always been a hotly disputed topic but recent research suggests the mystery of attraction can be revealed. We talk to Dr Raj Persaud about being irresistible - and how to hold onto your perfect partner.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579684http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579684Our Sex and Love Doc, Dr Pam Spurr, analyses what really might be going on with Katie Holmes and Victoria Beckham's friendship.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579680http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579680If you're an AFC who wants to become a PUA and enjoy a little kinko with a SHB, then a dating bootcamp could be for you. Hugh Wilson delves into the world of seduction schools. Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=14837541http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=14837541Is this 22-year old Brazilian hunk Madonna's new man? The singer has been spotted with model Jesus Luz in New York several times since the pair met on the set of a W Magazine feature back in December. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=9120000http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=9120000What secrets can we find out at bedtime about a couple? Well, just as we might make assumptions about the strength of a relationship by observing how people interact with their partner, it's also true that different sleeping positions can reveal plenty about how connected a couple might be.Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579698http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579698Curvy Kelly Brook has the shape most of us envy, according to a survey of 5,000 women by Grazia magazine. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579696http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579696The Actor Move over Hugh Grant, there's a new boy in town. Having left the world of banking to write and star in the upcoming Heroes and Villains David Raymond will soon be a name on everyone's lips. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579694http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579694The photo opportunity of the year so far came on Monday night when Kate Moss and Jemima Khan locked lips at a charity bash. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTIn The Bedroomhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=12989292http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=12989292Young women are finding themselves torn between having a great career and starting a family. So what happens when you have both? Should new mums be rushing back to work like Rachida Dati to keep their careers? Dr Pam looks at the difficult predicament.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=11623261http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=11623261Dear Pam...I can't remember the last time that I was genuinely happy for no particular reason. I have little to no sex drive, I mope around and am usually snappy and my moods are unpredictable. I feel useless and inside I blame my partner for everything.  Why do I feel this way?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=11344797http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=11344797Dear Dr Pam...I've fallen for a guy at work and we get on really well.  I don't know if it's love or not! But I know it feels really good but bad at the same time because I don't want to hurt my boyfriend.  What should I do?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=11153077http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=11153077Dear Dr Pam... I've got a muscle weakness which means that I get tired quickly. It also means that in school I use a wheelchair to get from class to class, even though I can walk perfectly fine and do so in lessons.  I often get the feeling that people can't see past the chair to who I am. Why do I feel so lonely and depressed?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=10270129http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=10270129Are you looking to spice things up in the bedroom? Our sex and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr has just written a brand new book on how to do just that. Here she lets us in on some secret sexy tips.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9780987http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9780987Dear Dr Pam... my father recently got in touch with me after many years and I discovered that I have another brother and sister. I am trying my best to build a good relationship with them all, but they mainly speak Punjabi while I mainly speak English and I'm finding it really hard.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9780697http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9780697Dear Dr Pam... I recently had counselling to help me deal with lots of issues from childhood and it has done wonders for me. I've started working in a bar and have recently developed feelings for a younger man. But I'm terrified of being seen as the older woman, please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9780292http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9780292Dear Dr Pam... I had a fling that lasted just a week before I got with my current boyfriend but I feel like my ex still has a hold over me. I often find myself thinking of him and wonder if I'm not properly committed to my current relationship because of this. Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9779487http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9779487Dear Dr Pam... I've never had a long relationship with anyone because I'm scared of turning into my father, who was horrid to me and mother while I was growing up. I now feel that I'm ready for a serious relationship, but how can I be sure that I won't turn out like him?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9775233http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9775233Dear Dr Pam... I find myself getting really anxious when it comes to social gatherings but when I actually go along I find that they are not so bad. I just think I worry too much about what people think of me and that I'm not quite good enough.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9343144http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9343144Dear Dr Pam... when I married my husband I knew he was a cross-dresser, but lately he is spending more and more of his time dressed as his alter-ego. I'm not sure if he actually wants to become a woman. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9342936http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9342936Dear Dr Pam... I've had cancer for the past 15 years of my life. Ever since I was a little girl I've helped my mum around the house, but now it feels like she is running my life. I don't seem to have any freedom or independence. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9342582http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9342582Dear Dr Pam... my wife and I have been married for 26 years and have three grown-up children. But now she wants to leave all of us behind and live in Barbados with a man ten years her junior. I don't know what to do. Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9156858http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9156858Just how manly a man do you want? Our sex and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr asks: is it time to bring back the alpha male?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8974690http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8974690Dear Dr Pam... my partner has four grown-up children and I have a young daughter. We both live together but the problem is one of his daughters is utterly possessive of him - calling him first thing in the morning and last thing at night. It's getting in the way of our relationship. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8974243http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8974243Dear Dr Pam... I have been married to my husband for two years but he constantly spends all of his time around at his ex's and I have found text messages between them telling each other they love one another. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8973998http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8973998Dear Dr Pam... I'm 30 and married to the man who I've been with since the age of 18. Everything was fine until six months ago when I started falling for a guy at work. He's told me it's only physical but I just can't stop thinking about him. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8972501http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8972501Dear Dr Pam... I am in a relationship which I hope will last for the rest of my days! We are both 50 and both have children. But the problem is my partner won't meet any of my friends - and I haven't met his family yet. I'd like us to move forward but don't know how to. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8972078http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8972078Dear Dr Pam... I have been with my girlfriend for 13 years but she is incredibly emotionally abusive. I can't seem to do anything right around the house or in the bedroom and I wonder if at 39 I should stay, or leave. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8971978http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8971978Dear Dr Pam... my husband of 31 years has revealed he had a three-year affair with the wife of one of our friends. This has come as a complete bombshell and I can't seem to cope with things at the moment. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8971739http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8971739Dear Dr Pam... my boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship and get on like the best of friends. The problem is, I often feel embarrassed in the bedroom, even though he tells me he thinks I'm gorgeous/sexy. Please help!Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8971554http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8971554Dear Dr Pam... I am someone with a huge lack of confidence and have suffered rejection from my parents, my grandmother and now my boyfriend. He has started to turn violent towards me and I don't know what to do. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8916663http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8916663As Madonna and Guy Ritchie are heading for the divorce courts, our relationships expert and agony aunt Dr Pam Spurr tackles the tough topic of how best to handle a marriage break-up and protect the children if it happens. Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8784167http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8784167Dear Dr Pam...Out of respect for his mother he has said we cannot be together and I know this decision was very hard for him. Even though religion was going to be an issue for us, I don't think he was ready for the response that his mom gave, which was basically that she would disown him if he were to bring any other girl apart from their religion back home... What should I do?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8691315http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8691315As Sienna Miller and Rhys Ifans decide whether to split for good or make a go of things, our Sex and Relationships Expert Dr Pam Spurr looks at why mismatched relationships can sometimes be doomed from the beginning.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8339054http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8339054Our relationship expert and agony aunt Dr Pam has recently received several problems from readers who are being emotionally or physically abused by their partners. Here she talks us through the signs, offers advice on what to do - and reveals how to get out. Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8301215http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8301215Our relationship expert and agony aunt, Dr Pam Spurr, receives many problems from women who feel like they're trying to do it all and failing. And us mere mortals are not the only ones: it's a problem that's also hitting successful celebrities. Here, she tells it like it is.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8258355http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8258355Dear Dr Pam... In my last relationship, I found out that my partner had been cheating on me all along with another girl - and his friends knew the whole time. I am now with a perfect boyfriend who is really good to me, but I keep trying to push him away. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8258204http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8258204Dear Dr Pam... my partner and his family have always had issues dealing with stress but now he gets chest pains and says it feels like he's having a heart attack. He's also verbally abusive and I've started dreading coming home from work some days. What can I do to help?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8257905http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8257905I'm a wife and mother of four boys but I feel so sad and lonely I just can't believe this is as good as it gets. My husband is so abusive when we have arguments, it has completely destroyed my self-esteem. Please help. Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8256245http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8256245Dear Dr Pam... when my girlfriend and I got together I was a bit more sexually experienced than she was, so we took things very slowly. We only told our very close friends about our relationship, but one of them made a joke which has left her blanking me. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8255604http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8255604Dear Dr Pam... I recently found out that my mum is having an affair. I love both my parents dearly and haven't told my dad because it would destroy him. I'm now beginning to feel like life is getting on top of me and I don't enjoy doing the things I always used to. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8255411http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8255411Dear Dr Pam... my husband is so over-sensitive that I cannot have a discussion about anything - however polite or nice - with him. And now he's started forcing our children to go to four hour church ceremonies every week, which they hate. How can I help them out without it causing a war at home?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8061403http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8061403Our agony aunt and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr advises brides-to-be how to beat those wedding-day nerves.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7939444http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7939444Dear Dr Pam... I suffered from depression when I was 16 and I think it may be coming back. I'm becoming extremely paranoid around my fiancé and am worried I might drive him away. I've also put on weight since having our baby daughter and feel things are spiralling out of control.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7939129http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7939129Dear Dr Pam... I've recently discovered that my husband has been looking at gay websites and he says he doesn't love me because he doesn't know what love is. We have four children, two of which are having difficulties, and I don't know what to do.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7830479http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7830479Dear Dr Pam... I was abused as a child, and got into shoplifting as a teenager. I currently live abroad with my husband and our children, but I still suffer with bouts of depression and find myself wondering if life would be better back in Britain. Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7640112http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7640112As a major new study finds that anti-depressant drugs don't work for the majority of people who take them, this raises all sorts of concerns for the one in 10 people who suffer from serious depression. "What will help me if anti-depressants won't?" will be a big and justified question on their mind.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7590809http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7590809Dear Dr Pam... my husband and I have been married for nearly 40 years and have a happy, loving relationship. The problem is we're finding it increasingly hard to see our son and our granddaughter, because his wife doesn't seem to want us there. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7567609http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7567609Dear Dr Pam... I have a great husband and three wonderful children, as well as good lifelong friends. My problem is that I had a very difficult childhood, and it's left me feeling awkward and panicky in social situations. I want to get over this as life is too short. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7567213http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7567213Dear Dr Pam... I escaped from an abusive relationship which left me with no confidence and a lot of self-loathing. I'm now with a lovely new man who is kind to me and my daughter, but I keep feeling that I have to prove myself to him, like I did with my ex. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7529864http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7529864The pressure is always on for singles and couples alike to have an amazing time on Valentine's Day. Oh no, you're not allowed just to have a good time or enjoy it - you have to have the most perfect and romantic day ever. Sex and Love Expert Dr Pam Spurr reveals how you to enjoy it to the max if you're single - or part of a couple.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7236290http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7236290Dear Dr Pam... My boyfriend of nearly a year has had to return to Brazil and when he left he told me he no longer loves me. This has broken my heart and I cannot stop thinking about him. I haven't eaten or slept properly for weeks. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7235718http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7235718Dear Dr Pam... I recently broke up with my girlfriend after we both decided that we were no longer in love and just with each other for security. The problem is I'm now falling for one of our mutual friends. Should I act on my feelings, or leave things alone?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7182819http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7182819Dear Dr Pam... I've recently been dumped by my girlfriend for being too needy and possessive. But when I went to collect my things from her flat, it seemed like she wasn't fully prepared for the relationship to be over. Should I try again with her or move on with my life?Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7176180http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7176180Dear Dr Pam... my boyfriend and I have been together for two years, but recently I found out he was sending flirty texts to a colleague at work. Nothing more happened and he says it made him want to be with me even more, but I'm finding it hard to forget about it.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7146852http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7146852Dear Dr Pam... I'm 51 years old and my girlfriend is a very beautiful 39-year-old. But the problem is we have completely different sex drives. She is happy to make love just once a month which is leaving me feeling unsatisfied. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7146659http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=7146659Dear Dr Pam... I'm 16 but I feel my life is going nowhere. I've had a lot of problems in life to cope with, including the death of my mother when I was eight-years-old, and now I find it very hard to develop lasting relationships with girls. Please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6964424http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6964424Whether it's being apart from loved ones, battling the booze or mending family rifts, our sex and love expert Dr Pam Spurr explores what we can learn from the lives of the celebrities in the run-up to Christmas.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6900981http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6900981Dear Dr Pam, my boyfriend suffers from depression and always lets me down. I love him very much but former work colleagues have warned me he maybe seeing someone else. On top of that, he seems to be becoming abusive. I don't know what to do, please help.Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:38:37 GMTAsk Pamhttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=14811532http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=14811532The plight of Jade Goody's battle with terminal cancer has captured the hearts of the nation. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 10:47:34 GMTAsk Pam (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=14543533http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=14543533What did the celebrities give away about themselves on the Oscars red carpet? MSN’s relationships expert, and body language and celebrity analyst, Dr Pam Spurr gives you the lowdown on the Oscar gowns...Fri, 06 Mar 2009 10:47:34 GMTAsk Pam (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579673http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579673After 20 years and four sons, Gary and Michelle Lineker's marriage was thought to be one of the strongest in the public eye, so it comes as a huge surprise to learn they are separating. The childhood sweethearts, who met when their families ran market stalls next to each other in Leicester, are said to have "grown apart" in the last 12 months. A spokesman for the couple said: "No one else is involved and never has been. Gary and Michelle will remain good friends. Their main concern at this difficult time is the welfare of their children."Fri, 06 Mar 2009 10:47:34 GMTAsk Pam (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579671http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579671Just two years after tying the knot and two months after giving birth to her second child, Britney Spears has announced she is divorcing former backup dancer and aspiring rapper Kevin Federline. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 10:47:34 GMTAsk Pam (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579670http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/askpam/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579670Back at the beginning of 2007, the rumour-mill went into overtime as speculation mounted that Kate Moss and Pete Doherty were planning to tie the knot. Meanwhile, her friends were apparently 'secretly meeting' to see how they could 'save' their pal from Pete's clutches.Fri, 06 Mar 2009 10:47:34 GMTAsk Pam (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6676305http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6676305You always knew fame and fortune weren't the only things in abundance. A new study breaks it down by the numbers.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=10431220http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=10431220Are you looking to spice things up in the bedroom? Our sex and relationships expert Dr Pam Spurr has just written a brand new book on how to do just that. Here she lets us in on some secret sexy tips.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9826327http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9826327This week it has been announced that men will soon be able to buy authentic Viagra pills from an online pharmacy rather than paying a visit to their doctor.  We investigate how the new system will work.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9793740http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9793740The contraceptive pill for women has been around since the 1960s and has revolutionised the way that women manage their fertility.  Experts say that the pill for men could be on the market within the next seven years, but how does it work and who would be willing to take it?Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9094875http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9094875Sexual desire and food have been associated with each other for centuries. We went in search of foods thought to be strong aphrodisiacs. Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9072739http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=9072739It is the superfood of the moment, and supermarkets and health shops alike are rushing to fill their shelves with packets of goji berries.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8936539http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8936539If you're a recent divorcee,  you may find the urge to date again over-rides everything, even your children's embarrassment at mum's flirty behaviour. Marina Gask points out the pitfalls.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8070957http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=8070957If you're a megabucks millionaire who has the cash to splash (if only) then we've got some of the world's finest most exclusive wedding destinations for you and your spouse-to-be to party and honeymoon in for your big day.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5745779http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5745779If this doesn't get you reaching for your trainers then nothing will: recent research has found that fit people are having much better sex than their less active counterparts.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579687http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579687Our agony aunt Dr Pam Spurr has written a brand-new sex guide: Sensational Sex - The Revolutionary Guide to Sexual Pleasure And Fulfilment, published by Robson Books, priced £7.99. To buy your copy for the special price of £6.99 plus Free UK P&P, simply call 0870 787 1613 and quote ref. CH678. Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579686http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579686MySpace phenomenon Tila Tequila recently announced she had over one million friends on the networking website, but just 8% of our social circle are 'real' friends, according to new research. The experts reveal what makes a good friend and why we have mates we love to hate.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579685http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579685Successful seduction of the opposite sex has always been a hotly disputed topic but recent research suggests the mystery of attraction can be revealed. We talk to Dr Raj Persaud about being irresistible - and how to hold onto your perfect partner.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579684http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579684Our Sex and Love Doc, Dr Pam Spurr, analyses what really might be going on with Katie Holmes and Victoria Beckham's friendship.Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579680http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5579680If you're an AFC who wants to become a PUA and enjoy a little kinko with a SHB, then a dating bootcamp could be for you. Hugh Wilson delves into the world of seduction schools. Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:38 GMTSex Advicehttp://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=14837541http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=14837541Is this 22-year old Brazilian hunk Madonna's new man? The singer has been spotted with model Jesus Luz in New York several times since the pair met on the set of a W Magazine feature back in December. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTSex Advice (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=9120000http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=9120000What secrets can we find out at bedtime about a couple? Well, just as we might make assumptions about the strength of a relationship by observing how people interact with their partner, it's also true that different sleeping positions can reveal plenty about how connected a couple might be.Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTSex Advice (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579698http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579698Curvy Kelly Brook has the shape most of us envy, according to a survey of 5,000 women by Grazia magazine. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTSex Advice (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579696http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579696The Actor Move over Hugh Grant, there's a new boy in town. Having left the world of banking to write and star in the upcoming Heroes and Villains David Raymond will soon be a name on everyone's lips. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTSex Advice (Photos)http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579694http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/inthebedroom/gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=5579694The photo opportunity of the year so far came on Monday night when Kate Moss and Jemima Khan locked lips at a charity bash. Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:49:29 GMTSex Advice (Photos)